The life of a not so average girl doing not so average things.

Spring Break and the Aftermath

Today was the first day back from Spring Break and it was REALLY long. This is the beginning of the end and every minute of every day I am thinking about what exactly that means and the new challenges I am and will soon face. Yes, this was the first day of the second half of my last semester as an under-graduate!

Spring Break was awesome. I had a birthday(WHOO!). I had an interview(YIKES! and WHOO!). I had a major panic attack(WHOO…what?!).

No, it was relaxing and calming and the only reason I had a meltdown on Saturday, was because now I can literally do nothing about seminary, except wait to see if I get accepted. I got to spend a lot of time with my sisters which was wonderful. Not as much time with my brother, but he was  off having grand adventures of his own. I got to spend quite a bit of time with my grandparents and some other family members as well, which was great! I even got to see sonogram pictures of Junebug, my cousin’s baby. 🙂

Now I am back, not entirely willingly, and it is crunch time! My first ever online class started today and I’m pretty anxious about it. It’s taught by my favorite professor, but I’m nervous about keeping up with the amount of reading necessary. SAI elections are right around the corner, which makes me super excited! Getting to pass the gavel on will be rewarding and take a HUGE weight off my shoulders! Speaking of SAI, initiation is Friday! Whoo! We’ll have 8 new initiates. I’m really proud of them and excited for them to officially be sisters. That being said, I speak for like eight pages in that ceremony and I’m nervous about forgetting lines!

I did get to start the week off right by working with my dear friend, JerseyGirl, in the library this evening. She is one of the most exciting things about the prospect of going to Princeton. We talk about our lives together a lot. Haha! It’s kind of adorable. 🙂 Don’t sweat it, she’s married. 😉 JerseyGirl is the perfect name for her, because she lives in New Jersey when she’s not at school here with me, but she is not ANYTHING like what probably came to mind when you read that name.

Anyway, I read this little tidbit in the textbook for my online class and found it quite interesting and relate-able:

Family research is quite clear about the systemwide effects of destructive marital
conflict. First, negative conflict between the parents reduces the family’s network of
friends and creates more loneliness (Jones 1992). Conflict between the parents tends to
both change the mood of household interactions and shift the parents’ attention to the
negative behaviors of their children (Jouriles and Farris 1992). Parental conflict has a
direct negative impact on the children. Communication patterns between fathers and
their young adult children seem to have a circular relationship—the young adults treat
their fathers the way they were treated (Dumlao and Botta 2000). Conflict between parents predicts well-being of the children, with more conflict associated with maladaptive
behavior on the part of the children (Dunn and Tucker 1993; Garber 1991; Grych and
Fincham 1990; Jouriles, Bourg, and Farris 1991). Finally, the effects of destructive con-
flict patterns suggest that “ongoing conflict at home has a greater impact on adolescent
distress and symptoms than does parental divorce” (Jaycox and Repetti 1993, 344). Parents who either avoid conflict or engage in negative cycles of mutual damage directly
influence the children’s subsequent lives. A modest relationship exists between mothers
who avoid conflict and their daughters’ marital satisfaction (VanLear 1992). On the
other end of the continuum, children who are exposed to harsh discipline practices at
home (which coincide with a negative and hostile relationship between the parents)
are more at risk for aggression, hyperactivity, and internalizing by withdrawing, having
somatic complaints, and experiencing depressive symptoms (Jaycox and Repetti 1993).
The family effects also reach beyond the immediate environment. One study demonstrated that children from high-conflict homes had much stronger negative reactions
while watching a video of angry adults than did children from low-conflict homes
(El-Sheikh 1994).

I’m not saying I’m screwed up because my parents fight/fought a lot, althought that may very well be the case, I just thought it was an interesting correlation.

-Kay

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One response

  1. DinoMan

    Apparently I missed your birthday. My wife’s broken-ness is my excuse. Happy late birthday!

    March 25, 2013 at 22:28

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